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it is no bad thing

Amber Mathenia 2 January 26, 2008

Filed under: faith,prayer request,random — Ellie @ 11:27 pm

I am so thankful right now that tomorrow is Sunday- a much needed day of rest. I feel entirely worn out, emotionally & physically. I can only imagine how Mr. Anthony must feel right now… as well as Mrs. Amber’s sister, April; her mom, Laura; and her dad, Mitch. Please, please pray for these people!

I had meant to post these few songs several days ago, but have not really had time yet:

Amber Mathenia’s Favourite

(or, one of them)

Here is love, vast as the ocean,

Loving-kindness as the flood,

When the Prince of life, our ransom,

Shed for us His precious blood.

Who His love will not remember?

Who can cease to sing His praise?

He can never be forgotten

Throughout Heaven’s eternal days.

On the Mount of Crucifixion

Fountains opened deep and wide;

Through the floodgates of God’s mercy

Flowed a vast and gracious tide.

Grace and love, like mighty rivers,

Poured incessant from above,

And heaven’s peace, and perfect justice

Kissed a guilty world in Love.

-William Rees

One of the ladies at our Wednesday night ladies prayer meeting mentioned this song while praying for Mr. Anthony in particular…

“Hold Me Jesus”

Sometimes my life just don’t make sense at all

When the mountains look so big

And my faith just seems so small

So hold me Jesus ’cause I’m shaking like a leaf

You have been King of my glory

Won’t You be my Prince of Peace?

-Rich Mullins

It is so hard sometimes to have faith enough, to have faith that our God is faithful, although my life proves that He most certainly is faithful… He will not leave us, nor forsake us. He is faithful, I know He is, but it at times becomes so hard to remember. Yet now, even wile it is so hard to remember it is also quite easy at the same time, because Christ is with me even now, I know that He is will me. I am not sure the exact quote, but Rutherford said something, something like “whether Christ comes bearing a rod or a crown, if He come Himself with it, it is well”.

It is my prayer that many will come to Christ, and that those who know Him already may come to a deeper understanding of Him even in the midst of this difficult time.  

How full of Joy must Mrs. Amber’s face be right now! The hardships that once saddened her are gone, and the sins that we struggle with still are a thing of the past for her. Now, she is with God, now, she is surrounded by all of the saints who have gone before us: Paul the Apostle, Amy Carmichael, Samuel Rutherford, John the Baptist, Moses, Noah- and there, there face to face with her is our Christ! I cannot begin to imagine what is must be like, what it looks like and what it feels like, to be free from sin and everything that comes with it. But she knows. She is there, right now.

There will come a time in all of our lives when all of the work which Christ had for us here will be finished, and He will take us to be with Him. There will come a time also when that point will come in the life of someone we love. I do not know about everyone else, but for me, this is long before my human time for Mrs. Amber to leave. To us, who do not know God’s eternal plan, it seem so early for her to leave us: we were not ready for her to go. Yet Christ saw fit to take her to Himself. It hurts, but all mixed with the hurt is a Joy which I cannot begin to express, the Joy of knowing that this is not the end at all, and there really never actually is an end.

“There is nothing but perfect garden-flowers in Heaven, and the best plenishing that is there is Christ” -Samuel Rutherford 

O Christ, He is the fountain,

The deep, sweet well of love;

The streams of earth I’ve tasted,

More deep I’ll drink above;

There, to an ocean fullness,

His mercy doth expand,

And glory, glory dwelleth

In Immanuel’s land.

-Anne Ross Cousin


Funeral Arrangements January 25, 2008

Filed under: random — Ellie @ 10:17 pm

The visitation for Amber Mathenia was tonight (I didn’t get a chance to post these arrangements before now) and the Funeral is Saturday at 2:00 p.m. at the First Baptist Church, Millington Tn.


Amber Mathenia January 24, 2008

Filed under: adoption,faith,prayer request — Ellie @ 11:20 pm

On Tuesday, January 22, our dear friend Amber Mathenia entered into her rest.

When the news reached me of the car accident on Tuesday night, it really did not sink in: No. I thought not really. It can’t be, really! But it is really. 

I am thankful that Christ spared for Mr. Anthony thier two children, Isaac & Ellie. Although they were in the jeep when it happened (the jeep rolled several times) & thier mother was killed instantly, Ellie & Isaac were unharmed. Oh, how I thank God for this! 

How glad Mrs. Amber must be right now! To be face to face with the God she sought after, to be singing his praise in the company of to heavenly host. The words of a poem by Amy Carmichael come into my mind “oh how fair Thy house must be, with all the flowers we’ve lent to Thee!”

My heart goes out to her family, to all of her loved ones who are left to trudge on a little while longer without her. Please join me in praying for them in this difficult time.

I remember what a testimony her life has been to the goodness of Christ, what a testimony she has left behind that is even now, I trust, touching the hearts of many. I remember her smile, and how often she used it.  I thank God for the instemental way He used her in our family: He used her to change our familly, forever & ever, by encouraging us to persue adoption.

We were in the middle of making matching outfits together for Ellie & Isaac. She made Isaac’s herself, but she never got to finish it! Momma & I have finished both Isaac & Ellie’s for her, and in an odd way it has given me great comfort to be able to do that. I am so saddened that Mrs. Amber never got to see them wear them, but I also am very happy for her now…

Prehaps I will return tomorrow… there is so much more to be said, so much more that I had hoped to say, but I cannot sort out my thoughts enough to say them.

To learn more about the Mathenia family, click here. Also, visit the November archives of Carolina Hope. 


This and That January 22, 2008

Filed under: adoption,faith,random,sewing — Ellie @ 12:04 am

Since I haven’t posted in around a week, I figured it was about time. We haven’t actually been exactly busier than usual lately, but that doesn’t mean we have not been busy. Plus, Mer has been cutting FIVE teeth this week, and so everything that comes with a toddler cutting a tooth is amplified five times over (only two left to pop through, thank goodness!). Tuesday was Momma & Dad’s “orientation meeting” with Life Choices (our adoption agency). They did it over the phone, so I’m not really sure exactly what they talked about, but they sure talked (over two hours). Momma was very pleased & said she was able to ask all of the questions she had wanted to ask. Tuesday was also Ben’s 11th birthday, BTW.

Thursday was our first homestudy visit, and we got to meet our WONDERFUL (so far) social worker, Annice. She was nothing like I would have imagined if I had given myself the chance. I think I might have imagined her a skinny old woman with her hair in a tight bun, condescending to say hello and nod but not to shake hands. She set us at ease right away, talking away and trying desperately to remember all the names and faces presented to her. She looked over the house, but made it very clear the she held a good family life higher than the size of the house. Not that we were too concerned on that subject: we have a good-sized house, and plenty of space indoors & outdoors. I must say that the visit was far more ’fun’ than I would have thought. Everyone says it is like making a new friend, and I now understand what it meant by that. She told me that in future visits she might want to ask us older kids some questions. To tell the truth, if she had said it before I met her the idea would have been so intimidating, but she is easy to talk to and just plain nice! She works for the health department, so she is working on getting us in for our TB test and all our testing for our health forums soon. Momma finished her bio and I typed it out for her yesterday, and Dad finished his awhile back. The paperwork for New Beginnings (they’re doing our homestudy) is just about finished, and we are thankful to God that everything really seems to be coming together. Actually, it is coming together to fast that it just about seems like a whirl.

I have really been praying lately for so many people, and struggling with how so many people have responded to our decision to adopt a child simply because of the whole B-L-A-C-K thing. I am very glad that I know already that I will be able to love our Baby quite as much as I would if he/she were a very white baby with very blue eyes who was born into our family. I know this because of Isaac, mostly. There is nothing there, his skin colour does not change the fact that he is an adorable little boy, it doesn’t change the way he can crawl into a persons heart and make them love him. It sometimes hurts, because although some of these people who are responding so negatively are not so close to me, some of them I love very much. Some of them, it hurts very much. I pray the God would work this out to be to His own glory in the end. I pray that, as a friend of ours suggested, this will be a chance for our friends to learn and grow. I keep hoping and praying that (if not before) when we get our Baby, and he/she is a very, extremely real little person, so many of these theories will be blown away.

Well, in other news, the “grand opening” for the antique mall where our booth is located will be Feb. 2, so tomorrow Momma and I are going up there to “make a plan” as Momma said. I’m really going to have to get some work done before then, I have so little up there right now. I need to make stuff! And we got the very fist order off our website tonight! Finally! Of late, our web site statistics show that we have had an increase of visits by about two thirds, and the average visit length has gone up 2 minutes, and still climbing. Every week when I check our average visits per day, it has gone up two-three visits (this is a GOOD thing).

This week is the RV show in Tupelo, so dad and I guess Trey will be up there working, probably access hours some days. I hope that it is a success, and some of that success comes Daddy’s way (all the more to help with the Adoption). I was supposed to g up there tomorrow, but for once in my life I do not at all want to go. I have plenty of work to do here, and it is so warm and cozy here at home. I think I will send Jacob instead if it is allowed.

Well, I know these blog posts are supposed to be short and to the point so I guess I’ll go ahead and shut my mouth, although I have plenty more I hoped to say. I reckon I’ll just save that for next time.


Favourite Pictures of 2007 January 14, 2008

Filed under: adoption,Annie,life,Mercy,pictures,random,Sarah — Ellie @ 11:43 pm



Steve-O, Annie, Me, Caitlyn, Hannah, Sarah. (SRING 2007)

For three months this year, we were able to have both the blessing and the hardship of having my three beautiful cousins- Caitlyn, Stephen, and Isabelle- live with us.  This picture was taken wile Isabelle and Mercy were in their naps.

Tug O War


Trey, Sarah, Catherine, Kyler, Lee, Ruth, Samuel, Jacob, Kelan and Chase. (MAY 2007)

We were blessed to have a gathering of our friends & family at our  home in May, 2007. It was one of the ‘highlights’ of this past year- especially the large assortment of home-made Ice Cream!


Michael Lee McCoy

The first time he went fishing (our pond, early 2007) Lee caught 4 beautiful fish!

We were blessed this year to have Lee enter our lives- our dear friends were the recipients of what has proved to be an immeasurable amount of blessing when they adopted four (now 5) year old Lee. Today is Lee’s gotcha day!

Mercy & Macrae

 Mercy & Macrae

This picture was taken this summer at Emily’s Piano Recital. Macrae was just learning to sit up, and Mercy was giving him a few ‘pointers’. 🙂

Annie & Lelly 

This is Summer!

Annie and Hallel eating watermelon in the swimming pool

This picture was taken one afternoon wile Lelly was staying to play with Annie.  It was sooo hot, so Momma let them get in the swimming pool- on the front porch, because the sun was too hot anywhere else- and of course, have a summer snack!

Trey & Jacob

Everything’s a Sword!

Trey & Jake

Trey and Jacob found these Mosquitto Torches at a camp ground we stayed at in Kentucky. They played like they were Inigo & Westley fighting in The Princess Bride.

Bass Pro Shop

Bass Pro

Daddy, Annie, Mercy Kate & Momma

We had the opportunity to visit the Bass Pro Shop during the capiegn this fall (much to Ben’s delight). This picture was taken on one of the upstairs benches by Sarah.

Vote For Daddy

Hot on the Campeign Trail!

Mercy Kate

This picture was taken in late summer of Mercy soliciting votes at the Neshoba County Fair.

Mercy Paint

One Happy Artist!

Mercy Kate, late summer

I got out the washable paints in the landing room and let Mercy be creative. She was literally so happy that she would occasionally sit down on the floor and squeel at the top of her lungs. She also decorated herself, and ate a blue marker 🙂 


Isn’t he a handsome little fellow?

Macrae, mid-summer

This picture was taken by me in our front lawn, during one of those relaxing drop-in visits when there was nothing to do but visit (and, of course, take pictures!)

Macrae’s Birthday

Did I hear someone say CANDY?

Neo, Ben, Sarah, Ruth, Hannah R, Annie, Hannah B and Lelly

For Macrae’s 1st Birthday, we had a pinita. Here are the kids, dashing to collect the Candy.


Happy Fall!

Mercy Kate

Hope you enjoyed the pictures!


Our Booth, our Baby, and our Toddlers… January 8, 2008

Filed under: adoption,Annie,Mercy,pictures,random,sewing — Ellie @ 12:29 pm


We have our booth sort of-semi set up now, although it is not fully stocked yet. This afternoon we intend to go over there a finish up a few things, and Momma wants to put together a binder of monogram samples for the front desk. I still need girl Monkey overalls & I also want to put some Birthday Overalls in there.

Well, now our first homestudy visit is scedueled… I won’t say that I’m not nervous about it, but not nearly as much as I could be (and thought I would be). I mean, I like us alot (what’s not to like?) so why wouldn’t the social worker? For real, I guess if she doesn’t approve us that means that maybe God doesn’t want us to have a Baby (although that thought already nearly saddens me to death).

I sometimes wonder what Mercy will think when we get the Baby. But I guess she will probably just get used to it. I think she will be really sweet, except maybe when she’s tired… after all, she is a teeny bit spoiled 🙂  Of course, we talk to her about getting a baby, but she is too little to understand what that means. She likes to point at the Cuppy and sleeper we have sitting on our hutch in the breakfast nook and say “baby”. I sometimes am surprised when Mercy says something: I’m not used to her talking yet. She seems to have turned into a ‘toddler’ all of a sudden…

Annie thinks it is the greatest “perk” of adoption that you can pick the Baby’s skin colour. She said “I want a brown one with brown eyes and brown curly hair.” Well, we’ll take whatever God sends us, but He probably will send us one of those… except the curly hair might be black 🙂

Baby Mercy 

Mercy- the day of her birth with Momma

 Mercy 1st Bithday 

Mercy Kate 1st Birthday

Yey-Yey & MerMer

Mercy (now 19 mos.) and YeyYey (Trey)- taken a few nights ago