I admit to being somewhat surpised (& disappointed) by how few people were at the adoption conference last Saturday. I guess I really honestly believed that more people than that were iterested enough, at least in vertical adoption, to come. Now I understand that the people there did not represent all of the interest in adoption in the area, but still…
So now we come to the question: what do you think of (as a Christian) when you think of adoption? There are allot of people who simply cannot understand our adopting Josiah because after all, adoption is for people who cannot have kids ‘of their own’. And that is really what people think, that adoption is all about someone wanting a child so they adopt- usually it is thought of as the next best option when a couple can’t give birth to a child. I think that this kind of thinking is what causes people to want to select their child (“I’ll take a medium-sized white boy with brown hair and no health risks”)- because when (horizontal) adoption becomes all about the parents, those things tend to happen. But I wonder what might happen if we all began to think of adoption in terms of God adopting us? What if God had adopted only the humans who looked like Him? Only the ones who had no scars from their former life? Only the pecfect ones? He would’t have ever taken me. Would He have taken you? What if He had thought of Adoption as we think of it? He would never have Adopted any children, because He already had a Son- Christ. What hope would there be for us? What hope is there for the little girl in Ethiopia who lives in an AIDS home? Think of what might happen for her if Christians strove just a little more to think about horizontal Adoption as what it is- a reflection of vertical.
People did not understand when we began the process to adopt Josiah. Then I guess they assumed that we were adopting him because of the situation we heard about when the Mathenia’s brought Isaac home- allot of babies at Life Choices who had no families. I wonder what they’ll say when Momma & Dad (Lord Willing) bring home another child… and another… and another. What will they think when I grow up and hopefully get married, what will they think when my husband & I adopt if we can & do have biological children? They won’t know what to say. Somehow, a family like ours adopting was more understandable when there were a few orphans growing up without families in Memphis, but it is unfathomable when there are millions of orphans in Ethiopia & all over the world. The number looks unreachable. So unreachable, that people don’t try to give a family to even one of those little ones. It is strange how our little human minds are more likely to respond to a small number than a large one, how the idea of 1 child growing up without a family (even in a particular area) is more heartbreaking htan the idea of millions & millions.
Maybe, if someone told us there were nine ophans in Ethiopia, we would be more likely to care. Maybe, if all of those had faces we could see, we would care. Maybe not.
Let’s face it: we are selfish. There is no other excuse. It is inevitable that adopting a child costs- maybe it is the $12,000+ or the emotional energy adopting an older child takes, maybe it is the loss of ME time, ME not being able to do what I want, pouring MY life & MY time into one or multiple children. It costs us. But how much did it cost our Father to adopt us? Can you even begin to conpare your potential sacrific to what He gave? It is time to start thinkig of Adoption in terms of how we became the children of God.
‘God didn’t call every Christian to adopt’ is a very true statement, but is has become a saying people can pop out real fast in order to avoid anything uncomfortable. Many people could easily add “so He hasn’t called me to” or “so I don’t have to ask Him if He has called me to”. Yes, it’s true. Every Christian is not called to adopt. But every Christian is called to care for widows & orphans. You, Christian reader, are resposible to care for orphans.
The number of family-less children in the world is tragic, but what is more tragic is are the people who live every day doing everything they can to ignore & avoid their God-given duty to care for them. There are some 132,000,000 orphans in the world. Will you be the one who is God’s hands and feet in one of their lives? God says to us “I will not leave you orphans, I will come to you”. Will you say that to a child?
Probably not. That is what is truly tragic- even the people who say they believe it, probably wont live it, and what hope will there be for the orphan then? If God’s people do not begin to take His commands seriously, 130,000,000 children will wake up orphans tomorrow. They will wake up orphans Wednsday. They will wake up orphans Thursday. They will grow up orphans. They will live as orphans. They will die as orphans. May God forgive us.